And unfortunately, Christian culture, just like any other, can be a wellspring of bad advice when it comes to dating.This is because our fallible, human-run church culture can sometimes get some weird ideas in its collective head—half-baked dating ideas that aren’t really supported by the Bible.Personally, I’ve never really liked first dates, especially if it was a blind date.I feel a lot of pressure, and sometimes it’s just plain awkward.In my late twenties, my live-in boyfriend dumped me and kicked me out of his apartment.I was convinced that God was keeping a tally of my sexual indiscretions and punishing me for them.
Dating is complicated enough on its own, but when you add some truly awful advice into the mix, it can be downright impossible to find love.
Before our modern dating norms, there was the strict system of courtship in which few even got to choose who they married—dating occurred after marriage.
In the Bible, all you’ll find are guidelines on sex and marriage, and these are pretty simple: don’t sleep with anyone outside of marriage, don’t commit adultery once you’re married, and treat your romantic partner with love, kindness, and passion.
We put pressure on ourselves and on our dates to have a vision for our future together as soon as possible.
Overthinking the long-term possibilities can cool things off before they even have a chance to get started.