(Insert image of me banging my head on a wall.) What makes this super-hard is the fact that you’re often related to the people in question.You’re not exactly going to win points with family by calling grandpa a racist.Maybe it isn’t even appropriate for your partner to talk to their family at all about their dating life.Or maybe your partner has to go through almost a “coming out” process around dating someone white or outside of their culture.
For that matter, how could I have ever guessed on the many other cultural pitfalls on the pathway to becoming the foreign wife of a Chinese man? Still, John and I survived it, all because he insisted on staying by my side. “You’re Chinese, I know you are,” he says quietly, triumphantly, like he’s got me checkmated.I’m a black girl from Detroit who fell in love with a white Jewish boy from Philadelphia. It was a Saturday night, a typical gathering of 20-somethings. Sounds like a small thing, but that got me interested. Donny and I dated for three months before the topic of meeting family came up. I had heard horror stories from friends who also dated interracially—the painful silent dinners, the follow up commentary drip-fed for weeks. If you have a story to tell or a lesson to share and you’d like to contribute to our site as a guest, please email us at [email protected] I know, it sounds like it’s straight out of A Bronx Tale (great movie! The beer selection was Coors Light, Budweiser and Modelo. Most people made snide remarks, except one disheveled boy, bearded with a flannel shirt. Already struggling with school and in a somewhat precarious emotional state, I didn’t want jeopardize myself. If we’re a great match, we’d love to tell you more about joining our family of writers.Just realize you might be in for a very bumpy ride if the parents initially say “no” – the kind that could make the movie “Meet the Parents” look like kindergarten stuff. Like how I’ve heard some relatives praise John for being great at computers (because, of course, all Chinese are that way….).Back in May, I ran a guest post from the blogger behind “Are you happy about those secrets? If only they knew that my husband calls on me for all things computer and tech-related. ) People have even expressed concern about the fact that John and I have a bilingual relationship, and have cautioned us against speaking one language too much over another. But I’ve never dated a white guy, let alone sat down at a dinner table with a white family. Should I draw a parallel between ancient Jews and black people in America? I remember rolling the windows up and down throughout the ride. I thanked him for the recognition and insisted I wasn’t anyone special. We’re told to not prejudge situations, but experience can challenge that call. Accordingly, I approached meeting Donny’s parents apprehensively. Within a few minutes of meeting his parents, I realized my apprehension was unwarranted. Inspired by a social worker at a young age, Carmel decided to dedicate her life to helping children in need.